We've asked each other " when did you realize you could trust me?" "What was the moment you knew I had your back no matter what?"
We each come from different back grounds, we've each been raised in the church but with different rules and regulations, we came together at a very young age and started our lives together knowing 100% that we didn't want to be with anyone else and wanted the best for the other person. That, I believe is the key, that we each wanted the best for the other person. You can't go into a relationship desiring for it to work for you, you have to go in knowing your going to give all to make it work for the other, then you'll see the seeds you sow grow into something good.
To answer the questions we asked at the beginning, I believe in my life and mind I knew I could trust him with my all when he time after time had patients with me, and forgave me, and loved me no matter my mistakes or moods. When we took "Love and Respect" and could see and understand how differently we really do speak and understand each other but had each other's best interest at heart the whole time.
In the past four years we have had a major injury to my husband, where the doctors were surprised he wasn't paralyzed. A major illness to our oldest child where we had to relearn how to cook and eat differently. We had a baby (making 4 kids total) and I have had to work through some major physical and mental battles after an incedent at the doctors that left me with two surgeries and a hysterectomy.
We as a family unit, as a couple, had attacked each citation with calm, and prayer, with love and patients. You can't battle a fight if your not working as a team. You won't win the battle if you don't have each other's back.
Is your family worth fighting for? Are your children worth living in peace? Is there space to start over, knowing that all the while you have the other persons best interest at heart? That learning how to speak to each other, or argue with love, or fight fair, is more important than winning! Could you, would you, forgive and forget and start over for a happy ending? It's your choice! You have the power, you get to choose, so choose Life! Choose family! Choose peace! Choose the other person and not self! And then do that every day, multiple times a day, and watch what happens. Loving someone is so much more than a feeling, it's a choice, lots of choices really. It's actions, it's 1Cor 13. It's a whole lot of work, and worth every single bit! Learn other people's love language, learn their personalities, learn what makes them tick and explode hahah so you'll know how to love them the best, and if we each do that for each other than we've won.
Be blessed today, and choose life.
